Flowers. Chocolate. Candlelight. Classy restaurants. Dinner and a movie. Phone conversations. Private jets to Vegas (anyone else been watching The Bachelorette?).

I felt frustrated and inadequate when I realized that my love life looked nothing like the romantic comedies that I loved

These traditional symbols of romance are unmistakable. We’ve seen them in movies, read about them in Nicholas Sparks novels, watched them on popular dating shows, and heard about them in the courtship tales of our mothers and grandmothers. Yet if you’re a single, modern women today (and that category includes young professionals, college co-eds, small-town girls, divorced MILFs and all women in between), then you’ve probably been wondering. why isn’t this happening in my own love life?! Instead of encountering handsome men and hearing, «It was great to meet you – can I take you for dinner on Saturday?», why am I drowning in a dizzying storm of text messages and mixed signals and ambiguous interactions and missed connections?

In short – how can I feel so confident and empowered about my career, my friends, my family, my hobbies, my dreams and my fashion choices. but feel so bewildered and powerless in my love life?

Trust me. I, as a 27-year-old single girl, have been (and sometimes still go) there. I spent years playing by the old rules and listening to the old lessons about what my love life was supposed to look like. Hell, it didn’t even look like Sex and the City – those girls seemed to be going on dates every night! Don’t get me wrong; I was still hanging out with guys and experiencing the highs and lows of love, lust and attraction. But the day-to-day process just didn’t seem to make any sense.Seguir leyendo